We recently renovated our office/home school room. we prepared our 12 year old for it days ahead. We had him involved in the process so he knew what to expect.

When my parents changed a couple of their rooms, we had them do the same thing. It seemed to help.

I would rethink the upgrades as of yet, also upgrading/construction/paint and etc are toxic and could potentially add to his toxic load and cause regression.

If you are willing to, sit down with him and tell him that there will be a few changes. If you can get paint samples, or floor samples, whatever might change and let him feel them and see them for himself. Get him involved with the remodel in some way, for example, narrow a paint choice to 2 or 3 colors that you could go with and let HIM choose. Let him hold onto a paint sample card or something, and have it available. When he comes to your house the first time after remodel, greet him outside, and talk to him about the changes before you go into the home. This will allow him to mentally prepare for a different environment. Pull out the paint card if you have it and remind him of the WONDERFUL choice he made, and brag about how well his choices came out.

I too have a child that was very routine oriented. 5 years ago we suffered a fire in our home. We have to move out for 9 months while repairs were made. She adapted amazingly well to all; Better than my nuerotypical son. You just never know... I think it can all be in a matter of how it is presented.

I would suggest "couching" in look at the wonderful changes we are making... and follow his lead and answer all the questions and concerns honestly. They respond to that.

I agree with @A MyAutismTeam Member . Including your grandson as much as possible will help. Imagine leaving and coming back to a whole new place. But if he can be part of the change, it will be easier. My 16 yo is currently helping paint his bedroom. He's totally enjoying his part.

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