The school is legally required to give your son a free and appropriate education. Calling you shows they are not equipped to handle him and need additional training and resources. Get some help! Call your state department of education office that deals with "exceptional" children.

I would recommend requesting an IEP meeting to discuss how to get the teachers trained so they can handle your child and efficiently teach him. I would request the school district hires or consults with a qualified behavioral analyst (who specializes in Autism) to work with the teachers and aides specifically about your son. Get it written into the IEP. Also request that you are able to attend the trainings as well so you will gain those skills as well. I recommend Autism Partnership as a quality organization. You can search for them on google.

Because every time you come pick him up it is reinforcing the bad behavior - he gets exactly what he wants which is to leave the school!

Ask if your school system/district/township has a school within it that has 'behavior' specialized teachers. We dealt with all of this for two years. All of a sudden this year his school principal called a meeting (made our son stay home that day - I was so PISSED) and then called us and told us that they felt it best for him to transfer to our townships "behavior" school. Basically, it is a regular elementary school within our township that has specialized teachers that work with behavior issues. They deal with all kinds of behaviors and don't send your child home at the littlest thing. We went and toured the school before making the decision and LOVED the people there. They understood and were willing to work with whatever our son brought to the table. He has been there for 4 months now and we LOVE them! He has had maybe 4 behavior breakdowns (which have not been anywhere near the intensity that they were) at this new school. At the old one it was almost every day.

I totally agree. I think he is probably overstimulated or just wants to avoid doing tasks and he wants to go home. I cant go and get him every time there is a unfavorable behavior from him. I will request training at his next IEP meeting. I will also look into that book. Finding a doctor that specializes in Autism and takes his insurance is like finding a needle in a haystack here, which is odd, but I will keep on searching. Thanks!