I do the whole nine yards when it comes to helping my child reach her best potential . team meetings every three months which the school and a.b.a prividers meet in my home and brainstorm with a communications specialist to help her meet her next set of goals set forth . but it seems that they are both standoffish with there own style PLEASE HELP
Keep being proactive and calm and get to know them. Maybe even take them to lunch together or invite them to your home for lunch. Sounds like there may be emotional barriers that have nothing to do with you or your child. Trust your instincts. The more you know, the calmer you remain, the more they will trust you and one another.
The key thing, I do is to listen to both sides, and used what ever I see that is beneficial to my child.