I am a single mother approaching 50 years old with health conditions and I have a 7 year old son with autism. The father is out of the picture. I moved him back to Colorado in order for him to get closer with his aunts, uncles, grandparents and cousins. Although he is loved dearly by all his family members, when I asked any of them to serve as his guardian in my Will until he turns 18, nobody has accepted. They have all accepted guardianship with each other's children so that is not the⦠read more
Oh wow my heart goes out to you and your son, I haven't come across that although its in the back of my mind consistently. I have a 21 year old daughter and just assumed she would take over if anything happened to me or my husband to our 12 yr. old Autistic son, or one of our family members would step up to the plate if need be. I guess I should stop assuming and start talking about it. I wish I was more help to you with an answer but have you tried to sit down with them and really seriously tell them how concerned you are? Maybe they just don't realize how serious this is and need to understand.
Good Luck, and God Bless you and your son.
I don't have a family member who accepted guardianship but I have some close friends who have accepted. These should be friends who know your son well and sincere. These are friends who have spent time around your son and can be trusted to make sure he has proper care.
this is so sad. my thought is, even if you added on of them on the will to take care of your child, would they listen to your will ? Do you have any aunts or uncles that would be willing to help you ?
To b quite honest never thought about it. But after reading your post...I knew in my heart I would have some of the same problems. My son is only nine and no one in family including his father would or like to watch him for even 1 hour. I think as of now the only person I would consider is my best friend. She has been with me through it all and loves my son like her own. I am so sorry sweetheart that you have this worry. I will pray God gives you wisdom on what route and avenue is best for your son. Hugs.
I'm in the same boat. Just turned 60 with a 7 yr. old granddaugher with moderate ASD. A co-worker with adult ASD daughter told me she made her a ward of the state already. That way she still gets to live at home with mom, and mom can pick the place, like assisted living, for when the time comes. This would probably be a last resort, but better than not having any options at all.