if my son is playing a game on the copmuter or ps2 and he loses he has a complete meltdown, and i try to calm himm down but talking to him only makes him madder and holding him makes it worse so then my dad(who doesnt understand autism) comes to the bedroom(which has no door on it for me to be able to shut,and tells me to just spank his behind. But I dont want to teach him to hit or slap any more than he does already, anyone got advice, i sure could use it
Just let it run it's course and try to "ignore" it, making sure he can't hurt himself by matter-of-factly removing objects that could cause him harm.
Taking into consideration that my daughter is 3 years old what strategies do you use to calm your child from a meltdown when the reason is unknown or a trigger has been set off & they need help calming down???? Breathing exercises or counting to 10 don’t work for her as she is 3 & nonverbal w/ ASD level3.
A child proof space with some favorite ideas where, maybe a big bag chair, soft mat or couch cushions. Sometimes a walk or swinging. Occasionally a favorite video or song. Space and time. Sometimes… read more
My daughter was recently diagnoses with autism so I am still learning about her diagnosis and some of the things that I can expect to experience. One of my biggest challenges helping her when she is experiencing a meltdown. I have tried holding her, or singing to her none of these really help to console her she pretty much has to tire out. The other day she was having a meltdown in the car and I tried offering her my hand to see if just having some physical contact with me would help and that… read more
Your doing such a great job and she is lucky to have you as a mom. What helps my son when he has a meltdown might help her
We do a running game together and count our steps, if he is very angry or… read more
how do you handle a meltdown? is there a way to calm them down or defuse them? if you see one coming on is there a way to prevent them. Also when there in a meltdown is there a way to help them calm down and come out of the meltdown? my son has several a day and i would like to help him through this
I know it's been said, but experience and observation are the best tools for this
What are his triggers
What is going on when he finally calms down?
What distracts him quickly?
What activities will… read more
Excellent way simply excellent
my son is a 6 y/o Aspie and ADHD (evne though I think he has some undiagnosed things as well) but sometimes when he meltdowns at home I can't get him calmed down no matter what...he throws things, hits things (like the tv or the dog or his sister), opens doors and slams them, rocks a small table back and forth in to the wall, etc etc. Sometimes I just have to grab him and sit on the sofa with him with both arms wrapped around him and sometimes my legs, but he is very strong and sometimes it just… read more
We all are acquiring wisdom little by little. No two situations are similar. All kids are different. And doctor's uncertainty about ASD is especially frustrating. Thousands of non-profit and other… read more
What movies or music do you use to calm a meltdown? For us we use a variety of songs/movies to get our daughter to calm down. When she was a baby, all we had to put on was Don't Fear The Reaper (I guess she needed more cowbells) or Yeah!! by Usher ("yeah" was her first word at three months). We now have discovered that she loves Lucy In The Sky With Diamonds (one of our cats is named Lucy from the song). As far as movies go, they wouldn't be movies that a normal five year old girl would like. My… read more
He loves animals too. I'm hoping to get a puppy for him when we move to our house ♥️. He is so calm when he is around them.
Im trying to gain some more understanding to what exactly is a meltdown. Especially when it pertains to mild ASD. Can you describe what happens when your child has a meltdown? What does it look like?
with my son a meltdown, starts when something is out of place or when something isn't quite right. he starts to get a little angry, he will try to do some self soothing techineques, but if that… read more
recently we have had some bad aba sessions where during a tantrum the teacher has tryed to redirect , causing my child to throw herself back and hitting her head, while i was MAD i stoped session. then they want to talk about how i felt i let them know ,i felt like they should hurry up and get out of my face. same type thing happenend two days later grrr. so now ive asked them not to pick her up was i wrong for doing so
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