This is the most difficult thing currently with my 13 yr old daughter. I have to wash her hair for her at least once a week because she gets lazy and it gets dirty. And shaving? A major battle. Checklists work for a while with us but eventually their effectiveness ends. I can't be her personal hygienist forever.

We have found that a schedule and a check list is invaluable. Bailey lives by her schedule board. We find it is the only way she can make it.

I have the same issues with my younger 16 year old brother. Seems he would be content to let me do everything which just doesn't fly...he can be independent but his attention to detail and attention span isn't good. I'm trying to devise ways to get him in good habits (brushing teeth better, remembering his wallet, if he forgot deodorant etc) and I'm wondering if a check list would be any good? Maybe get him in the habit of thinking about those things. I do think it is important especially at his age. And if I were you I'd start now.

I was just talking about this today with my friend. My son is 9 almost 10 and it seems like I do everything for him including still picking out his clothes. I feel he should be more independent so I'm starting to make him do things but I do meet a lot of resistance. I feel he must start learning if I ever want him to be independent but we are starting slowly.

We are going thru the same thing with our 14 year old daughter. She seems to be in a 'serve me' mode at the present time. Frustrating when I know that she can do so much better.