that sounds like our exact schedule...we have the kids Monday and Tuesday night and she has the kids Wednesday and Thursday night and we switch every other Friday. she doesn't want to pay for any doctors visits unless absolutely necessary (as in they are about to die) and now doesn't want them in day care because she is not going to work anymore...the only good thing is on our days she has no right to them and our atty said that if she attempts to move them or take them out of day care we can go back to litigation and fight. but then it is up to a judge to decide. we just want what is best for the kids. we've made it so that we swap after school so at least there isn't the whole taking them away from on parents house to the other (because she makes it a huge deal until one or both kids is crying).

We get productions of "Super Parent" all the time! KJ is very negative towards his father, due to mom always bad talking dad. How do I know this? Well not many kids with a 10 year old mentality will discuss how selfish their father is or 5 years later randomly get upset about "You said My mom left me and she didn't". Even though we have been over it a million times, Dad never said that... but mom did walk out and abandoned her sons for another man, her excuse was that she did it for 10 years, now it was his turn??? Always a dramatic scene.
The problem is no one will step up and admit their is a 'better' way to raise kids. Sitting down for dinner, having rules, consequences and responsibility, teaching them life skills in everyday life and putting aside you own personal wants and desires to put the kids first. I mean really, these people that think this is best should try it!! Get up and every couple days and switch where you sleep, what your schedule is, how you do everything. I mean I could not do it, I rely on coming home to my own bed for comfort at the end of every day... why shouldn't our kids get the same?

Good luck and I wish you the best! We had a horrible experience where one parent was not involved for 4 years and suddenly waltzed back in and even admitted to not being involved (except 6 nights a month). Courts gladly handed over these boys who had made huge strides in Mom's absence. They now do a 2-2-5-5 schedule to accommodate Mom's wishes and RIGHT to have them 50% of the time. Constant fighting, bullying, and yanking the boys back and forth past year. One is in weekly counseling, the other so doped up on meds to "manage" him and both regressed 2-3 years. No ONE will take sides or stand up for the boys... unless you pay a lawyer big bucks. Atty actually told us, it is expensive to fight 'crazy'. We want what is best for the boys, but everyone else is worried about rocking the boat with mom. So the boys wake at one home, go to school and go to other home, 2 days later reverse that, then on Friday reverse again... after all it is about the Mom's right to be their parent, not that the children have a hard time with transitions or need a consistent schedule to thrive. I will keep you family in our thoughts and prayers, to preserve what is best for the children.