how do we manage working with the other parent if we are no longer together he tells me he wont disclude me but then isnt even wanting to get started in the process of our goals in our 100 day planner for continueing services for our son? my heart tells me to not just take my son n continue services needed because i dont want to not include his dad, my heart also tells me to just get past the love for his dad n help my baby who is my main focus he needs me to help him already .?
his dad just filed for sole custody after making me still promise not to file ever that was always agreed upon between us
for me i just go do what i need to do for my son. i inform his dad we have this and that coming up. i give dates and time and place. IF he chooses to be there then he is there. IF he choses not to be there then he is not. however i do not spend time getting him caught up. if he doesn't have time to be there for his son then i do'nt have time to get him caught up. i ussually follow his request for information to the doc. that we saw or the his teacher if its a school thing.
it takes the stress off of me and leaves it with his dad. makes life much better for us.
Are you in the process of a divorce? Or are you considering because your husband isn't on board with helping your son?
I wont downplay how stressful a diagnosis can be on a marriage, I'm sure a lot of us here can relate but you may need to give your husband more time to grieve for the child he thought he was going to have and accept the child he was given. For whatever reason, it seems like it often takes fathers more time to come to terms with the diagnosis.