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Anyone Ever Had A Probkem With Getting Their Kids To Go To School?

Anyone Ever Had A Probkem With Getting Their Kids To Go To School?

My son is in Kindergarten this year and has done a total 360 in the past few weeks as far as his behavior. He usually loves school but this year has been rough. He doesn't want to go and has a meltdown if I don't "trick" him before it happens. He doesn't want to do any work other than what he wants to do and has become very combative. I have talked to his teacher and even sat and observed class...without anyone knowing. I would be concerned that sonething was happening at school but his… read more

A MyAutismTeam Member said:

It could be that the teacher changes things up so much. Kids with ASD like routine and like knowing what to expect. Constant change in routine would cause a lot of anxiety for my kindergarteners.

posted almost 8 years ago
A MyAutismTeam Member said:

I agree with the noise factor also have the teacher fore shadow movements the class is going to be taking . Ask the teacher to supply you with the pictures or titles of the foreshadow activities so you can go over them at home to help make things more familiar. You might also use them as speaking points to say what fun or man you really do that.

posted almost 8 years ago
A MyAutismTeam Member said:

I meant to add - give him time to get use to the environment as well. There were many more children in the room for his kindergarten class than his preschool and the noisy hectic environment took time for him to get used to.

posted almost 8 years ago
A MyAutismTeam Member said:

My son was in preschool for 2 years before kindergarten. He crawled under the table in kindergarten and did not want to participate for about 2 weeks. The shorter half days made the transition easier for him because they truly cover a lot of ground in kindergarten.

Changes in routine are awful for a autism child. They thrive on routine and to have a different one often is not a good environment. Sometimes the heads up "we are going to transition to this" is helpful.

For example: my son thought lining up to leave the classroom meant they were going to recess because that is the only reason they had lined up to leave the class. Then, he was told they were going to the library instead and he became angry. Sometimes the heads up does not help, but it cannot make it much worse and is somewhat helpful so the child knows where they are going next.

Keep working with the teacher and make sure the teacher understands that routine is very helpful. If routine is not going to happen, at least a heads up or a list of somehow so the child understands what is next may help to ease transitions. Best of luck on your journey!

posted almost 8 years ago
A MyAutismTeam Member said:

I agree with May. Changing things too often can cause our kids to feel anxious. Transitions can be very difficult and need planning and preparation. He needs to be told when things are about to change and what to expect. If he has a spontaneous teacher or one who changes her method or schedule it can make him insecure.
His behaviours at home could just be residual anxiety from the day.

My son did ok in Kindergarten, until his good, reliable teacher went on maternity leave and a teacher with many new ways of doing things came in. He was a mess within a few weeks.

Grade one was better with a teacher who was consistent and always followed through with what she said.

But grade two went downhill fast with a teacher who was not accommodating at all. He couldn't handle the change in teachers and totally different class rules for each.

We ended up homeschooling for this very reason.

posted almost 8 years ago
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