My son's teacher left a voicemail a couple years ago referring to herself as a glorified babysitter to my child. That didn't go over well and I reported her to district, she got in trouble and retired that year. I told them that it was inexcusable to leave a voicemail message like that and she is discriminating against my child and if she wanted me to point out more if her flaws as a teacher, I would be happy to do so. She also wasn't following protocol on documenting things.

I have a certain reputation at school now. I won't tolerate anything when it comes to my child. I don't make excuses for him and he has consequences when his behavior is unrelated to his autism but do not EVER try to tell me something disrespectful like that. It won't go over well.

I have found that there are educators that get it and educators that don't. Sometimes they can learn and sometimes they can't. I am always finding a way to teach them and find if I'm kind to them and listen even if they don't know as much as I do, they will work harder. My child was not feeling good about himself so we made sure
To have a private therapist and stopped thinking of the school as the main resource. I also did some part time schooling for my child to help alleviate my child's stress. He expended so much energy just being in that social setting he was tired. When I relaxed my child relaxed. Hang in there.

A teacher has been rude to me on many occasions. I am autistic too. I enrolled my autistic son in an online school because I wanted to give him more time before placement in public school. I was frustrated with how the teachers interacted with and spoke to me. They were not respectful of my needs or my son's, acting as though I couldn't handle home education (I am a college-educated professional writer and artist). So, I pulled him out of the school. I won't even argue on the points of respect anymore. I give two warnings. If a teacher is biased against me-- an autistic PARENT, what makes me think they will respect my autistic child? They won't.

Oh yes. When he was in the fourth grade we moved from Irvine where there was a well developed program for kids on the spectrum to Newport Beach where there was virtually nothing. His new teacher, a lady of advanced age, informed me that "children like him should be sent to a special school". I replied "The state of California disagrees with you."

Yes and I was pissed. So....I made a DVD of Autism animated cartoons that explain the condition and what the teachers could do or not do to help my son. One of them would not take the DVD I offered and said, "I know what Autism is". My son hated that teacher and was treated poorly in that class. The other teachers were receptive to the DVD. Not sure if they watched it or not but I did what I could do to help my son have a better experience in school and educate some "adults" who act like children.