Your son needs to be aware of the consequences. I went through this with my son, and I simply told him that if he wanted to play baseball he had to get good grades. I also helped him by speaking with his teacher and he also got tutoring too. Our kids are smart and aware of more than we think. Speak with the guidance counselor too, they can really help out. Good luck!

May I ask why his IEP would not recognize his sports requirement and use that to provide extra support for subjects that could threaten his eligibility? I would be very upset with my child's IEP team if a subject were so challenging it could jeopardize his sport participation. If he fails a subject it was not a suitable one for him to be tackling without exceptional support. Not sure he is the responsible party.

That one's a hard one. You'll need to prepare yourself to be in a calm state when he gets upset and not let his frustration get you frustrated. Next, have your tools - the rules of what students need to do to be on the team - copied and highlighted, his report card, and written down: the times you remember talking to him about his grades and the swim team. Once you have your tools ready, make sure he's in a good state of mind - not hungry or tired or pulled from an activity he's hyperfocusing on. Set up a date and time you and he will talk and set alarms - a warning to stop his activity soon and an alarm that says it's time to have a family meeting. Maybe you can set up a rule where the person talking gets to hold a certain object (like the remote) and when they're done talking, another person who has a turn holds that object. That would hopefully keep it clear who is allowed to talk and who is supposed to listen. Instead of rattling on and on, make sure you pause and ask him to repeat back what you communicated to see if he is following you. Give him chances to talk in between and to express his feelings. If he gets too overwhelmed and worked up before you've had a chance to finish, take a break and come back to it when he's calmed down. After the bad news of what could happen has been presented, have him talk about it and repeat back what you communicated. Tell him that you will be reminding him during the summer until school starts, so that he's mentally prepared. Then every once in a while bring it up over the course of the summer, so that he's prepared for what could happen. You could even do it in such a way where you ask him to tell you, like this: "Tell me what might happen when you go to school and try to sign up for the swim team this year." Then - "What is the reason why you might not be allowed on the team?" Finally, "What are the reasons (that we talked about) you didn't get a good grade?" "How are you going to deal with not being on the team? Are you going to throw a fit and yell at the couch?" "What do you need to do this coming semester, to get on the team in semester two?"

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His teachers do not always follow his IEP, and we have expressed our displeasure to the school before. I'll be chatting with the school before the start of next school year.