My son is 7 and has autism and has been peeing on the bed, couch or floor when mad or a limit is set or sent to room.i tried taking stuff away and making him clean messes but wasn't having enough of an impact. So a few weeks ago, this is what I told him from now on he peed on purpose like that again, he was going to get a spanking and I'd put him back in diapers for a couple days, it stopped......I said people who don't use the toilet wear diapers and he was too big to he doing that. And if he was going to pee and act like a baby then he'd go back in diapers like a baby. To refer to a child as a baby who couldn't help would be terrible but his is on purpose so I will call it out as it is. And to be be frank, I got real tired of cleaning up pee accidents from an almost 8 year old. May sound harsh by today's standards but being he was doing it on purpose for defiance and strong will and trying to be in control, I have no sympathy or compassion. Yes my son has autism, yes he's delayed, yes he has issues but he's functioning dang high enough to know better and to be held accountable if it happens again. People fall into the trap as just accepting behaviors as part of the disorder. By saying a child doesn't deserve discipline is saying they can't learn.

It could be he just wants attention. Try changing the way you react to that and give him more attention when he does use the restroom. Can he help you potty train your youngest son? Ask him for his help, see if he can help you with your youngest son. My autistic son loves being a big brother and loves the attention we give him because he needs to be a good example, and we tell him that a lot. Doesn't hurt to try. Good luck.

Hi. I would say keep trying to get him to open up and observe him. May have been something significant with a routine or certain environment.