Hey fam, we have a dilemma over here. Kiddo has new behavioral challenges that I’ve addressed successfully at home with sticker charts. I was happy to adapt my chart for school, but the teacher said it’s against the Montessori philosophy, which emphasizes intrinsic motivation. It upset me, because Kiddo is just not there yet. I don’t know if he ever will be. She also said that they can’t do regular or on-demand movement breaks because it would require one of the 3… read more
My son is in a Medically fragile developmental preschool through our school district and it turned out too be the best thing. They have been very proactive, communicative, and the adult to student ratio is approximately 1:2. We have been very fortunate to find a great teacher and were surprised when we started saying or son take off. Just did for thought. :-)
Sadly it sounds like they don’t care what works for him & are not willing to be flexible. I suggest going to the top of the chain & meeting one on one to find out if they have any knowledge or experience with Autistic kids at their school. I’m Sorry they aren’t willing to accommodate methods to help your son thrive there. This teacher sounds very close minded.
Do you have other school options in mind?
Correcte if I am wrong but they base their leaning on a setting where they can apply teaching according to needs to individual needs?
What can they do to meet your kudos physical needs?
They are supposed to be more flexible according to my reading and understanding.
DanJ98597 is right! The central idea of Montessori is that the classroom is supposed to be child-centric and customized. We felt great about choosing the school for its very organic approach, but I guess we’ve crossed into territory that has turned it into an issue of what is comfortable or convenient for teachers. Until now I’ve had a super relationship with the head teacher and considered her my key partner. But if they can’t or won’t hang a sticker chart or social story in Kiddo’s little cubby, I have to wonder why? How does that harm or impede anyone else’s ability to be successful at school? Why not just say yes and help a bright kid who happens to be different?
As a result, we are leaning more toward moving Kiddo to the public system next year, where he will have many more services and staff available to support him. And all without the big tuition we’re paying now. I don’t know, maybe what feels like a letdown is a blessing in disguise...