Welp, the day we were waiting for is here. We finally had our ASD medical eval, and was confirmed that little miss (3 years old) has "mild" ASD, presenting with receptive language delay, motor developmental delay, and input sensitivity (sudden, loud noises).
Not really surprised, but since she (I guess this is true for many girls?) has adapted so many social skills, we weren't quite sure if she was autistic or just had some speech and motor delays. Good news is, she was… read more
I said something like this:
My child's brain has differences than most brains in the population. That means he is incredibly good at some things (like remembering something after seeing it once, reading), and other things are super hard for him (like buttoning his shirt, conversation).
He is not disabled or sick, and he does not need your pity. You can help make the world less distressing and uncomfortable by not forcing eye contact or pressuring him to talk if he doesn't want to. The most loving thing you can do is get to know him, and let him be himself. He is not broken; he is different. The world needs all kinds of brains.
I received my ASD diagnosis on March 19th, 2014, less than 2 weeks shy of my 31st birthday. I was elated! I had suspected I was autistic since it first occurred to me at 26. To finally have those supsicions confirmed was beyond validating. I made it public on Facebook, and got an overwhelming response!
I've since made a lot of friends in the autistic community all over the world! It's great to find your "tribe." I'm glad you received answers early on, so that you can help your daughter flourish.
You're right about girls, too. I flew under the radar for so long probably because I'm a social butterfly. I've never been shy by any stretch of the imagination, and have always loved being around other people. Hey, it's the reason I have three jobs in human services! ;) Autistic girls experience different traits than autistic boys much of the time. I, personally, take things very literally, and I don't read between the lines by default. I take things at face value, and on the flip side, what you see is what you get.
I also received a late diagnosis of ADHD (25), and it was equally awesome to have it confirmed and to be receiving treatment. It's great that I can use my unqiue operating system to help others in similar situations!
Me too, @A MyAutismTeam Member . Crickets. 🦗🦗🦗
I just explained the diagnosis and said we're here if you have any questions. My family is filled with people who like to avoid things that make them uncomfortable myself included so most of them just pretended like nothing ever changed... unhealthy sure but it works for us lol 😂.
I don’t mean to be a horror show here but ASD can get worse over time. It’s called regression and very real. Many autistic parents are being told scientific information about autism from 10-20 years ago. The new stuff is incredible to learn but is heartbreaking because it’s like the ideal of smoking to people back in the 50’s. Many won’t want to change their information so many kids will not get well.
Just understand two things, (this is where the scientific evidence is going and it’s a path that companies making money off of our kids don’t like), your kid can get better from something(s) other than therapy. Therapy companies have spent a lot of time and money telling us they are the only choice...but if that’s true then why are there SO many kids that don’t respond to therapy? There is no one size fits all in anything.
And, your average doctor is not going to be the person who writes a script that buys you a pill to cure your kid! Autism has been a big thing since the 80’s, why are there no Pharma cures yet? 50 years and all they have are meds that turn them into silly putty! Think about it. They aren’t looking for a cure for our kids, they are managing symptoms like anger, self injury, and OCD. The cure for autism is showing itself to scientists but because it can’t be patented...there is no money in it. Don’t worry, I sound like a weirdo now, but in 10-15 years the news will become common place. Don’t believe me? YouTube search “autism gut leaky brain” once a day for a week. The more videos you watch the more the good stuff will be suggested. But Pharma can’t patent good healthy food