add magnesium chloride capsule in his smoothie. buy him a 24 fitness gym membership. great for male energy burn & self esteem

You could tell your son that not choosing a job is still making a choice not to work. I'm assuming he had some kind of therapy and or medication for years. Most people get some crappy job as a first job. It can even be part-time. Sitting at home when you're 19 is a waste of time and there's a huge labor shortage out there now.

I'm 58 now and been out of work for years. I've applied to nearly 200 jobs, had 20 interviews and not a single offer. Pretty depressing that my entire resume is deemed worthless. Two college degrees, Army vet and years of job experience makes me wonder if any of it was worth it. The lesson is employers value young employees with limited experience but sitting at home gets him nowhere.

He can make is own choices but a lot of 19 old year kids make bad choices because they aren't given any purpose or motivation because they don't know how things work in the real world. A job would take his mind off his issues and give him more independence.

You ladies are fortunate that your kid can work. My daughter may be 20 but she has the mindset of a 10 year old.

My daughter has issues with anger (especially before she starts her period). Its difficult to calm her down so getting her to use the tools she knows squeezing pillow, breathing deeply, etc goes out the door. Have you tried any techniques like this? Are you able to engage with him during his anger?

He is refusing anything. He is 19. He is crying out for help. Tells me he is detaching. And feels intense anger against others. He refuses therapy, working, engaging, medication. So I really need help with. How do I help him. When he ultimately can make his own choices.
Thank you so much!
It's a vicious cycle. He doesn't like himself for not being proactive. But then refuses it.