Forget using numbers for awhile. I went the tactile route. One bowl with 2 chips is 1*2=2 chips, eat the chips. Now, two bowls, with 2 chips is 2*2=4 chips and so on. Once it becomes more fun be creative. I used poker chips, marbles etc. We even gathered up a bunch of dice and through them into a shallow pan. Now, separate them into matching number of dots and you have an endless supply of multiplication opportunities. 5 die with 5 dots =25 points! Everybody wins.

My son learned how to multiply by watching School House Rock (it's available on DVD). It's very visual and with the music I think is what really helped him. We then did what ScarlettTaylor above said and used real objects to understand the concepts and know that he wasn't just repeating it without any real meaning.

I don't know if this would help but it is worth a try find something your daughter likes and take pictures of it. In my daughter's case, she focused on faces so I made multiplication cards of the yearbook faces to show her 2 sets of 4 faces equalled 8 faces. She also could count them separately to see that she had eight faces, I think being able to manipulate them and group them makes a difference. It helped though to hold her interest to use things she was interested in to get her to stay focused. good luck:)

Not sure if you are old enough to remember School House Rock that used to be on Saturday mornings in between the cartoons. I learned my multiplication that way. I had a hard time grasping the same concept. You can get the DVD off of Amazon.com or Ebay.com. The songs are catchy and fun so maybe it may make more sense if the lesson is set to music.

Use real-world concepts. For example, if we want to get 30 cans of sodas/bottles of water/etc., how many 6-packs do we need to buy? Include her in shopping trips, cooking activities, household repairs, etc. that require using calculations using repeated addition of groups of the same item. Have her help you jot down the multiplication facts you're using... when time allows using textures is wonderful! My students love it when I "run out of paper," or "discover" a dry-erase marker has gone dry, and grab play-doh or glue and sparkles and "figure out" how to "write" the math fact using the materials at hand, or we have to all stand up and use our whole bodies to air-trace the fact with large arm movements.... or we have to pace them out on the floor tile as a grid...