I am afraid of depression setting in, if I ground him and take things away. I want him to know that, this is not allowed. Now he is homebound for the next 6 weeks by the schools choice.
My son was telling me how kids in his classes were skipping...also how their grades may not be good. My son DID NOT KNOW that if you fail a class, you'd have to take it AGAIN! Imagine having to take grade 9 Math in grade 10 or 11!? I just assumed he knew how the system worked. Then, I told him, you need at least a highschool diploma to get a job! "REALLY?" YA! In fact, my Son told me the other day, that one of the kids wanted him to skip with him. I asked my Son, "What did you say?" He said..."I told him that I needed the credit!" WOW! "Good for you, Dan!" Ya, there's no way in hell that my Son wants to take a course all over again! Maybe your son doesn't know this, I assumed mine did, and I had to explain it to him! Get really good marks, or you'll have to take it all over again! He did not like that idea!
Yes charter schools have the same rules as public schools, because they are a public school and receive public funding. I work for one, and my daughter has attended one.
But you are right sometimes they are the best thing and sometimes they don't have the resources or know-how to meet the needs of your child. You have to find the right fit.
I'm not familiar with charter schools. If they work like private schools their rules can be far different. If he is happier there, it is a shame the teachers do not take the opportunity to learn a new way of instructing to meet his needs. :( Good luck hon.
The homebound is too much, but the charter school he went too I now see was not prepared for him academically. I have had numerous fights with the special ed teacher, and them trying to fit Kyle into their mold etc. They were giving us a hard time modifying assignments due to his learning disability. So I think this was just easier for him. This was his first time skipping, and I know he is not perfect, and has no filter so the school just does not know what to do. I am the first parent to bring an advocate in and fight for my child so this is all new to them This is the first year that Kyle has not been bullied and actually wants to be there, usually:) Public school was so bad for him and wasn't working. I think it is lack of teacher's ability..just easier for them if I do it.
I don't think you can avoid punishing him for fear of his reaction. But you can be understanding about depression. Do you know why he skipped? Talking to him about that choice might be a really good thing too. I work at a high school and kids skip for a variety of reasons. Some want to get high, some don't care about school, some are being bullied, some have social anxiety. Just a thought. I personally would respond with some kind of punishment, but adjusted based on his reasons, first offense, etc.?? But definitely talk to him about why it happened.