My son got angry at me and when I went to hug hime, he pulled away from me. This was just as an "normal" child might react though. The psychologist that diagnosed him said that his (NT) sister would be the best thing for him though because she forces him into social interaction and play. I have friends that won't have more children because of their first's diagnosis, but it is nice that siblings always have each other. He is 3.5 now and his sister is 2 and they hug each other and sometimes chase and play. He's still not 100% with other children, but she helps!

Though the ages are different, I've watched my 11yr old ASD son love his nieces and "new" cousins. My son likes to feel helpful with my 4mo old granddaughter so he does little helpful tasks. When shes fussy I ensure he has a quiet place to relax if he gets overstimulated. I agree that it's a very important family bond and yet I understand concerns you must have over how your child will cope w a new routine, new person. Have you tried looking for anything on the web or through professionals to help transition?

Our grandson was the same age when his sister was born and was diagnosed just before she was born. Mom and Dad prepped him like any other child would be. He was just as curious about her as any typical child and readily excepted her into his life. There have been no issues and they are as close as brother and sister should be. It did help that he went to a small preschool 3 mornings a week and I live close by so he got a lot of individual time with Mom and Dad and us. This type of time is very important for any family!! What I'm trying to say is treat him no differently than you would a neuro-typical child.

Oh, I just remembered you are not the mom posting but the grandmom to be. It will be easy on the 2 year old as long as you are present in the home as a support and you have a great relationship with the family which it sounds like you do! I just realized - they have no worries - they have YOU!!! :)

You're going to be doing alot of running around mom. Make sure you take time for yourself and time for 1 to 1 time with your Autistic child. Oftentimes, when they are not getting the time with you, they begin to do more negative behaviors to get your attention. When that happens, just realize you need to do something to give him more time whether you have a friend or family member spend more time with him while you are with the baby or hire a part-time babysitter for assistance. He will be needing you as much as ever and if he doesn't connect to you in a positive way getting his needs met, he will get your attention in a negative way you will not enjoy. :)