@A MyAutismTeam Member..i started with a timer, added stickers, treasure box rewards, special extra time on tv/movie/game, I have rewarded with special outings, visits to a favorite place. This is of course is gradual, our kids require immediate consequences/gratifications. Start small...focus on the rule/behavior that is being broke/displayed at the time..."i am setting timer for ...minutes(5), you are to sit in this spot until the timer rings, we don't ____, that is not allowed. ask your son when timer goes off, "why did you sit in time out?"he answers, acknowledge and praise his understanding..re-set timer for 5 mins. again, as he goes about doing his thing the timer rings... "YEAH , you have good listening, thank you for _____________.I am so proud of you for following the rules.You can do a great job listening!" at this point a reward of smallest measure comes into play...only you would know what that is, because you know what motivators to use, what incentives. They say to discourage food though. The method I glanced over is called compliance training. You can check into it in of course much greater detail, but it is a learned non-aggressive form of changing a negative behavior to teach the positive you desire to see. It worked for my son at age 3, and I still use the same basic tactics on a much larger scale now. "john..where are you wanting to go fri...he answers____, ok.so, what are you doing ? "john says, cussing/burping/spitting, etc" i say, ok, and what choice do you need to make? "john says better/good choice. That's correct. I expect better choices from you to go do __________ thif friday.It gets the critical thinking wheels a turnin, and it puts accountability on the child for thier behavior. Realize of course, not all behaviors are controllable..some are impulsive, and that is another issue. but the manageable ones....oh yeah this works! My son makes fun of me...in a star trek voice he repeats.."you will comply" haha lol

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I feel your pain Smilemaker!! My little one can be the same way!! we have a timeout chair that we use and it usually works well! Along with it we use visual cue cards... they are on the wall beside the timeout chair. There is a red, yellow and green card. When he starts the timeout he has all three cards on the wall, when he is calming down, I will remove the red card. now all that is left is the yellow and green. Once he is sitting quietly and calmly, I will remove the yellow card. He knows that when he is at the green card he may get up and then we talk about his timeout. It works very well and in the beginning, he was there quite often but he got the point after a while. Now when he just cant seem to sit there, I will tell him to take a quiet time in his room and I let him go in there until he is calm and he normally will calm himself down and let me know when he is done :)

Great moms think alike. I too use the time out chair and the stop light. I find visual cues work better for my Jasper than verbal ones that he really doesn't seem to understand. We also have a visual chart of the house rules. No running, no hitting, no throwing toys. It's a picture of the action with a big red "x" over it. We also have a visual chore chart so that he can earn rewards like ice cream or a lolly-pop, which in our house are not permitted except as a treat.

Checkout on facebook...Autism Discussion Page. Very informative on working on this matter.

Mine is 11 and rarely ever obeys us. If you all figure out the secret, please let me know! My son is pure mule-headed! It just might get him arrested one day!