Journaling and tracking behavior first and investigate the triggers, document the extent ot the episodes. show no fear, or worry get a plan. ground rules and deal breakers in play put them on a central location Golden rules "We treat one another with respecte. This is the way I talk to you and this is the way you talk to me. . explain that everyone talks to one another calm, quiet , and in a friendly manner. Ground rules are the start, and consider too that many children under the umbrella of Autism deal with a range of mood disorders , from gitty silly to depression, anger and irritation are close cousins to depression and anxiety investigate school settings discuss with your child if there are any school stressors happening! is bullying happening to him. does he go to another home to live with a Dad and is any thing happened there, on the bus or what ever. There is always a reason for behavior. at 10 expect hormones to start shifting and think of it as someone pulling your hard drive and messing with it and then putting it back into your computer, you just don't know what your going to get. however for your own sence of control set up guide lines and something for them to reference, reward good behavior give out tickets when you see it and do something like a there choice movie or out to eat on the week ends if they had a good week. on a day to day basis, keep encouraging. when negative behavior starts I would have my kids sit with one another in the kitchen at the table. the more time they bickered the more time they got to sit, doing nothing = they hated that, and it was effective for the big things. My kids do argue but it never gets to anything serious they correct there behavior cause they know what they don't want for them selves. Lastly If you have documented a long standing log of issues consult with a psychologist and to ask your DX if you may start something to take the edge off for you son a stimulant may bennifit him like Zoloft, 17,million people suffer with depression alone and most of that totally shows its head around puberty. God Bless you and your family !

Teach him how his bully words are stickers that hurt others in this way he can visually learn the concept and when he says something nice reward with a sugar free candy or small treat it will enforce his brain to positive feeback! BEST OF TRAINING!

Special needs children are 90% more likely to have Bullying problems, Kids have a tendancy to pick on anything different than them selves.

The sticker lesson is a tool I developed for my 3 kids Whom all have special needs. I have taught for 20 years ages K-9, and found that the bullying is an issue that is most difficult issue to navigate for "normal and ASD children a like. The basic idea is to help kids/ and parents understand what stickers/comments to keep and what stickers or comments they should throw away. Bullying will happen, it is how you deal with it that matters.this helps with emotional resialiance. we have discovered that this is a tool lacking in many families and children. I have presented the Sticker lesson to public libraries and private school . It can be a helpful tool. I have found as a parent we experienced a lot of uncomfortable gazes and stares, for us this tool was good too, We know the challenges our kids have and to add on the social componenet just compounds your problems. I recommend parents use the sticker lesson and adapt it to what they are experiencing. it does help and I found to also adding daily prayer and meditation helps me keep life in perspective.

what you do is get a bunch of sticky notes. and some friends do some roll playing. Have a friend say some mean phrases like= Your are: ULGY, you are stupid, you talk funny, or walk funny, you don't dress nice, make up a bunch of negative sticky notes and stick them on a selected person, the volenter who is being bullied.. show that the person now has lots of those stickers..he looks sad and weighted down by the comments.. "WHAT WILL HE DO ?" How would you react?" So many stickers can make you feel angry or sad or even want to say something back! . what can you do with them..
QUESTION TIME
ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS.
#1 how well do you know this person who gave you this sticker?
#2. Is it the truth about me?
#3. Is this a good sticker to keep or do I throw it in the garbage?
#4. Report Bullying to an adult
Every day we all have to opportunity to give away good positive stickers or negitive stickers. you choose what ones to keep! that are use full.
How do you decide they are useful?
Does what some one say effect how you feel ? the answer is YES..
Write on another sticker pad these words = Confident, Courageous, Loveable, Like able < talented, Good friend, Good with animals, Great at playing ---------
Life is like a big sticky note. when you say something those words can STICK.. make sure what you say is helpful not hurtful, in this way you educate and help your child with emotional resilaance, this tool also will help them be more aware of the words they choose too and actions to follow. ASD children are sensitive and often times they say what ever comes to there mind too, so this is a two fold tool for them grow and learn socially.. God Bless you as you guide your children.