My son was the same when he was little. he screamed in restaurants, church, malls. And was b/c their ears hurt so bad they overheard all the voices and noise triple than us. He cried if we play a little loud music in the car. They are over sensitive. Same when he walked bare feet in the grass he felt burning. Thank God he got better today he is 13 and when we go to public places He carries his ipad with headphones that way he controls what he wants to listen and the volume

Honestly. Pick your battles. my son wasn't going to behave or be quiet in church if his life depended on it and the staff for the "childrens room" was volunteers and i wasn't about to unleash my aspie on a bunch of unprepared people and make them think my son was the antichrist!! I gave up on taking him to church until he was older. I'm catholic so normally you do first communion about 2nd grade... my son wasn't ready for that until about 5th grade. Church is very structured and there's a lot of stimuli so it's very very hard on a child to remain "behaved" let alone a spectrum child. At three I would start w/ much smaller time increments. Eat in Mcdonalds, 1/2 hr. Get him through a quick shopping trip. then the long ones. Take him w/ you to get your oil changed. 1/2 hr of sitting. If he can't make it through that he's not ready for church. And by noooo means deprive him of your faith .... Just teach him at home and let him tell you when he's ready. My son is more active in church now then I am soo it didn't hurt him that he didn't go till he was older.

My oldest just aged out of the ABA therapy he was in in Houston & the therapist had a few different ways of dealing with unwanted/unexpected behaviors. We tried a token economy & kept repeating use your words please. If he acted up in public(therapist went everywhere w/ us), she would have us leave that setting. We also walked out of the room until he stopped screaming & we would go back to the room he was in & spoke to him. Yes sometimes we walked out of the room & left him screaming etc. But as I have learned different things work differently in different people. I also know that results don't appear suddenly overnight. My experience with my son sometimes it takes months!!! To see results. The important thing is to research, be persistent and never give up hope. It gets better I promise!