Every situation is different so I won't begin to pretend I understand your circumstance exactly. I will however, share with you my perspective based on my experience. All children must be honored. My girls and I have learned to become aware of what triggers them in an effort to avoid such triggers (it has taken years of hard work). Nonetheless, it sometimes occurs but thankfully they are able to express they are being triggered and we can take the necessary steps to manage it. For example, my oldest needs to be left alone and goes into her room because she shuts down completely. It is paramount to respect their process. By the time they go into meltdown form there is no rationalizing with someone who is irrational. A younger child may not have insight or the ability to regulate their emotions and therefore may require another approach. From my perspective, raging equates to the child feeling out of control and therefore insecure. From a sensory stand point, often they become over stimulated and their underdeveloped central nervous system can't handle whatever is transpiring at the time. It is paramount as parents we recognize that behavior is just a symptom of an underlying issue. It's our responsibility to understand such issue so we can begin to resolve the problem and meet the needs of our child. Remember, anxiety shows up in either fight or flight. Also, when anxiety goes up, cognitive goes down so their ability to reason, have insight and self-regulate is compromised. The best thing you can do for your child is to reassure them and do whatever is required to make them feel safe. Actions speak louder than words. These children are BRILLIANT and they know when they meet sincerity. Ask them what they need from you to make them feel safe and in control of their circumstances. Meet him with compassion and unconditional love and I guarantee you this will make a huge difference. My best advice is to talk to him about this when he is calm so you can take the necessary steps to avoid the situations that trigger him as well as establish a plan when he is triggered. During a meltdown, my children can't be touched but perhaps he may want you to hold him and rock him while you reassure him he is loved and safe. It's imperative he feels empowered to make the choices he needs to feel safe and secure. I hope my insight is helpful to anyone who may read this. Accordingly, my intention was to share as much info as possible for parents who may be new to this journey. XOXO