I take anxiety medication which has helped greatly! 😊 Over time, I became less compelled to perform rituals, too.

Have you spoken with a doctor about this? Your daughter might benefit from an anti-psychotic medication such as Risperdal or Abilify. There is a lot of evidence that ASD is related to psychosis, namely schizophrenia, and one of the most common traits for that is hearing voices that instructs them to do things, etc. It can be a serious situation so I strongly recommend that you speak to a doctor or psychiatrist.

She's on anxiety meds and mood stabilizer and a strong calm down medication

Someone already suggested signing. Sometimes when my son gets overwhelmed and frustrated, we will do some simple signing and he seems to respond to it a little better. His frustrations usually come from needing help, so we sign "help" and it usually deescalates the situation.

Doctors are refusing to actually do the test to confirm. Anything they are throwing out there they say she's need to be 16 but even then it's iffy because apparently the autism will override any therapy they attempt