My son is four and a half and has PDD-NOS. He is still not potty trained and does not seem to be the least bit interested. He will not tell us when he needs to go, and doesn't mind being in wet or dirty pull-ups or underwear. Can't find a strong enough motivator, and don't want to resort to punishment. I think I'm going to take him to a neurologist to check if he has normal sensation, because his pediatrician noticed his reflexes are slightly diminished. I've tried all the traditional… read more
Most of the toileting issues here are more than likely more of a sensory issue or a behavior. Punishment will not toilet train your child. This is what I did with my own child when he was 4, he was non verbal, typical stereo type child with autism, screamer, runner, spinner, flapper , you name it, he did it, he was on sensory over load and I was clueless but he was potty trained. He loved to watch the game shows on TV, so his potty chair was in the living room, gross yes, but I could get him to sit and wait it out, it took some time and it made a hellova conversation piece...lmao but it worked..as soon as I was sure he knew what the potty was for I gradually moved it up the hallway into the bathroom. Then when he went potty so did I even if I just went through the motions. He gradually went from potty to toilet with little resistance and once he had the toilet mastered then dad started modeling what "males" do. It took some time but he was potty trained. It scares me to read what some of the kids go through..so many people are convinced it is a medical issue when in fact it is sensory and it is behavior. That potty thing is the one thing your child has complete control of. Take a relaxed approach to it, dont react to it, yes it is tiring I know this first handed but keeping calm , cool and collected is a healthier approach to life with autism.
Hi I have a ten year old autistic son . I know exactly how you feel and what you are going through.. My son was 9 when he got potty trained I had brought him to a Neuro dr and they told me to let him go on his own time do not push him..The more that you push the more they resient. But when he got potty trained it was a answered prayer. Good Luck and let me know how it works out and what you find out hun
My son was nine when he was fully potty trained. I had the help of a behavior specialist train him. We had the "potty party" which means you take you child and all of his favorite toys movies and food and put them in the bathroom. While he/ she is playing, eating and drinking lots of liquids, you set your child on the toilet every five minutes. Eventually .....your child will need to go, it took about four our five hours for us, but finally sat on the toilet and went. Then we had a huge celebration. Lots of positive praise, hugs, high fives. This makes your child want to do it again. I also had my husband "show" him what to do. A lot of autistic kids are visual, so it worked. I hope this helps.
We let our son run around naked all of the time... it seriously was the only thing that worked! If we put pull ups on him he preferred to pee in them. If we put brief style undies on him he peed in them as well (I think because they were tight he assumed them were pull ups). So, we let him run around naked at home and had him wear loose boxer undies.... worked like a charm! Good luck!
I potty trained my son when he was 3 by using videos, books and other tangible materials. You can find good videos/books in the library that can help with potty training. I also had him sit on the potty every 15 minutes for at least 10 seconds. I provided him with a positive reinforcement ( high five, or favorite toy, snack) every time he sat for 10 seconds (even when he did not go). Every-time he did go in the potty, we made such a big deal of it. We danced, clapped, and gave him access to his strongest reinforces ( in his case it was 8 minutes playing on the iPad). I only use iPad as a price (privilege) since it is my son's strongest reinforcer. He does not have access to it in a daily basis so it is a great tool to use as a positive reinforcer. It was VERY time consuming. We did it during the summer when he was home and I was off from work. It needs to be consistent or it will not work. Once we removed my son's pull up, we only had him wear cloth underwear ( with exception to bedtime). Also we had him clean the floor when he did not pee in the potty. We did not get mad at him, we would simply help him clean the wet floor and help him change into a dry underwear. But it was important to make sure he was involved in the cleaning process. It took him 2 moths to void in the potty independently, and about 4 moths for him to move his bowels independently.
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