It sounds to me like she is going through severe separation anxiety. I would suggest making a booklet with pictures of you and family members to take to school with her. Also an item of yours that she derives comfort from, a scarf, hat, sock, washcloth, bracelet that you can let her "borrow" and hold onto for you until you "come back" and remind her you always come back for your stuff. Perhaps ask her what reward she would like to earn, (some one on one time with Mommy) for good/appropriate behavior. This is what I did for my son and it took 2 days and eventually he derived comfort from his "family" album. Hope this helps.

Have you had ears looked at my son sever ear fulid end up needing tubes making him wear heard like he was under water.

Attention seeking and non verbal communication issues. Autistic children likes everything the way it is good for them. They can not tell you how they like it best so they scream if it is no good. We often do little things differently in school than at home. I taught my son to hold his shirt and his willy to pee. He can only go a few dripps at a time so they tought him at school to flash the toilet for the sound and since this would be a 3 step instruction to flush before to hold shirt and willy we ened up him peeing on his shirt and on the toilet sit. He was sent home from school, because he got so upset. You have to find out what are the "little things" they do differently in school and at home. Do not forget she can not explain if she is thirsty or wants more play. Try to help as much as you can.

Parent/Teacher meeting is coming up soon so I am going to find out if I can stay in the class with her. We have tried everything we can think of, from taking her shoes off, to having her carry he favorite blanket all morning. She seeks out the kids but as soon as someone try's to talk to her or even look at her she starts crying. And it's not a little cry, it's a scream her head off. The Teachers have to other kids tell her she is too loud, and it crushes me to see them gang up on her because she is crying. I don't feel it is a behavior problem anymore, and it seems to be getting worse. Now that is getting cold out I have to scrap my windows for my car and as soon as I leave the car to do that she is screaming. If she catches me with my purse or my car keys, even at home she is screaming. I very much believe it is separation anxiety. We have tried giving her pictures. We have tried showing movies that she loves. She always has to have something in her hands no matter where she goes so we try making sure that it is something she loves. Everyone at the school is so patient, but as a mom it is heartbreaking to walk away in the morning. Thank you so much for the advice. I still don't know what I am going to do but it is good to know I am not the only parent who has gone through this.

Try a few classroom visits. Is something going on shes uncomfortable with? Our is it the mommy factor? Chris would cry when I left but settled son after. Is she getting attention for crying? Find out what could be possible cause