You can explain to her that if she refuses to wipe the peanut butter off, then she will have to have crackers without peanut butter. This may cause a behavior at first, but she is having behaviors now anyway! The more you stick with it...the more she will understand that if she wants peanut butter, she has to be willing to clean up afterwards.

This is a tough one and something a lot of us go through, I have two children that are a year appart, both ASDm kids, but my youngest is low functioning and has the same sort of issues as your child does. My son being older is generally ok because he uis able to deal with things much better, but there are times where he gets upset over his sister tantruming, and runs and covers his ears and hides in anothe room.

At this point we try to take care of him and let my daughter work out her tantrum, unless she is hurting herself, and then we go back and deal with her. It is completely normal to feel bad for the other child and feel anger for the other, you just cannot act on it and must always think about the fact that the child has little to no control over this and it is not their fault.

I know this does not make anything any easier, but my wife and I try to do our best taking turns so the other can cool off and get collected again. if you are by yourself that is easier said then done I know but you have to do what you did and get away in another room to calm down as long as your child is safe.

Does the child with the peanut butter on his face have sensory issues?

She does. I understand why that set her off. I just am not sure how to handle her when she is frightening my son who is only 10 months...