Does your son handle getting haircuts?? I have my son's barber do his. It takes him like 5 seconds, compared to me struggling with him. He uses clippers to get the job done. Hope this helps.

Sorry @A MyAutismTeam Member - I didn't know he had limitations to his movement. I agree with @A MyAutismTeam Member , desensitize your son to the noise by exposing him to the sound for short periods throughout the day.

As far as the staring part, you will have to try a few things. If I was in your shoes, I would try to distract him by giving him something to look at (something on the mirror), or have him wear sunglasses, or a mask... so he can admire himself in the mirror rather than be looking at you.

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Why can't he do it himself?

Yes at first he won't do it well so you might have to do a little "touch-up". But he is not going to learn how to do this unless he gets practice.

Now before you think that I don't understand.... let me remind you that my son is severely autistic and is in a self-contained classroom. He is considered one of the most challenging autistic kids in our school district. I do understand.

Does your son brush his hair, brush his teeth, get dressed? If not, I have some systematic step-by-step instructions to help you help him become more independent with self-care.

Now back to the question.... we started with the electric razor because we were worried he would cut himself. But it didn't cut well and he didn't like it. The straight razor was easier for him because you use shaving cream. So its more obvious what hasn't been done yet. My son surprised me at how careful he is. So far just minor cuts.... no more than my typical son. We showed him a video of someone else shaving. You can find them on You-tube.

Also remember, start small and build. In other words, at first get him to just shave a small area. Then increase it over time. Remember to reward his cooperative efforts.

I'm open to the possibility that he may never shave, and just live with the few years of looking silly.

I am just noticing that my 14 year old son will be ready to start shaving and I am very afraid of this next move in life. this worrying me a lot especially since he can't tie a shoe and is high functioning in many ways but even after trying over and over again this is a skill he can not complete any ideas