Does he have an IEP and does he receive services? Are you looking to change services with his diagnosis? It sounds to me like she's trying to keep data to change his placement. Newer laws state that without 3 - 6 months of data of interfering behaviors placements cannot be changed regardless of diagnosis. I'm not saying she's going about it in the right way because there are plenty of ways to keep data and not make it apparent to him. I'd request a meeting and ask if this was the purpose of the extreme strictness and if it is offer other ways to keep data that are less apparent to him. If you need other ways just let me know, I have a kazillion data collection methods that actually increase self esteem rather than break down self esteem like what she is doing. Most of my routines in the classroom and at home are positive based and not punitive. Make you voice known and don't be afraid to change teachers if you think this one isn't respecting your son, change is hard but a teacher who doesn't like you is even harder.

There is a definite timeline they should be following. Here is a powerpoint showing the timeline that is supported by federal law. http://edweb.sdsu.edu/people/jalvarado/sped651/...

The first thing I have to say is you need an IEP and you need one right away. They do not have to provide anything without one in most places. Second if he is in a regular class with a regular teacher then she is not capable of doing what needs to be done, because she does not have the training to do so.

Having your child switch to another teacher is also useless unless you have the IEP and you have a teacher qualified to teach your child. If you had an IEP then you would have a meeting with a team that makes it more difficult for the teacher to do these sorts of things because they are going to have a bunch of other professionals telling you and them that they are doing the wrong thing.

I know getting the IEP can be difficult in some places, but in most places if you have the diagnosis it is not too bad. You need to get on the phone and call the district office and speak to the director of special ED, and then make a face to face meeting with them as well. They will also be part of any IEP meeting that takes place and will be on the team. You should not need an advocate to get an IEP or even be at a meeting unless they are still not providing what your child needs. Often just the threat of one coming to the meeting will get you what you want, so most of the time there are no big fights.

Just as background I have two ASD children and one is high functioning, and he does not get his home work done all the time, because he has a low functioning sister that gets in the way because we have to deal with her issues. His special ED teacher has no issues with his homework not being done on time and will wait a week for it if she has to. She also will work with him when he struggles and will let him do other things for a while if he is having a problem with something, just so he does not get frustrated.
What your child’s teacher is doing is very counterproductive and making your child’s situation much worse. Once a child like this is uncomfortable it throws everything else off. You are going to have to spend a lot of time on this and go to multiple meetings, but it is something that has to be done, or things are going to get worse.

good for you and best of luck navigating the IEP world. you wil get the hang of it and we are always here to help just ask.

Yes, I am going to tell them today if we don't have an IEP by next week I am going to hire a lawyer. He is so smart and I hate that getting marked down for "typical asd behaviors" that he can't help is discouraging him so much. He used to love to go to school and now he cries at least twice a week bc he says he NEVER gets reward. Thank you all for the links and ideas. I feel so much more validated going into this meeting.