10 things every child with autism wishes you knew.

Thank you to everyone for your answers and support. It looks like we're going to be moving her out. I will still try and offer her some of these resources and if she chooses to learn about it on her own then great but I'm done trying to make other people understand. I need to think about what's best for my daughter and right now that means removing people from her immediate living environment who are not supportive of her. I hope that my in-laws will eventually come to realize what a fabulous granddaughter they have regardless of her autism - she's a good little girl who deserves to be loved and respected for who she is!

I feel your pain, because we are going trough the same situation. We were actually leaving at my mother-inlaw's house just around the time our son's autism signs started to emerge (1 to 2 and a half years old).

The whole family would tell us that it was pretty much our fault ranging from me wanting to teach him some spanish ( he is nonverbal)to us not taking him out more often to socialize with other people, which was not true we would take him out to parties, restaurants, out of town and even out of the country. We found a way to move out and now we live in our place, so much better. Every time I see her she says something stupid, so I try to avoid her at family gatherings.

Print out some easy to read intructions on autism information on about.com, since it does not seem like she would be down for reading a whole book about it. Also it is your child in a difficult situation to deal with, you don't need the extra worry of an unsupportive person. Good luck!

Jenny McCarthy's - "Louder Than Words" was helpful to me. It got mixed reviews because of language and some people said she seemed narcissistic and rude, but I thought it was genuine and helped me validate some of the feelings I was having. Some of the other books I've tried have been a little too clinical for me, whereas Jenny's book wasn't clinical enough for my husband. It's not a guide per se as her experience with her son.

I wish I could help but I can only say I feel for you and send my virtual support. My in-laws are in denial, my side suggested more discipline, and our ex-friends said that if we had just socialized our kid more than he wouldn't be like he is.

It is amazing to me that sometimes the people closest to you are the least understanding. I get more compassion and understanding from complete strangers.

Good luck to you... you have a very difficult road ahead.