i hadn't even thought about it from the point of view of Grandpa Pete's. My son is very affectionate so hugs never bothered him but an innocent hug given to a child that has personal space issues could cause such a meltdown. I am always awe struck at the vast differences of this spectrum disorder and how any of us are supposed to know what is acceptable and what isn't for other kids. I wonder at how much these kids must go through by well meaning people. I'm reading a great book called From Anxiety to Meltdown by Deborah Lipsky. She is autistic and writes about the causes and effects of meltdowns from the autistic side...what helps, what people commonly do that actually makes it worse, etc. It's very enlightening and has taught me a lot about dealing with my son.

That is the craziest thing ever. So now we arent even allowing childern to develope healthy, loving feelings for eachother? We are now inforcing a bubble or distance between us and everyone else or be punished? Im sorry. That is going to far and is it know wonder school systems are seriously breaking down?

i agree it was innocent but what if a child hugged too hard and hurt someone? What if a boy child hugged a girl child and she was very uncomfortable because she'd been taught that certain types of touching were inappropriate? Rules are made to protect kids and unfortunately, all kids have to be treated alike. My son accidentally left a mark on a classmates arm from his fingernails that needed to be cut. He was disciplined because the rule is that you can't leave a mark. Ridiculous? Yes. But where do you draw the line about what marks are acceptable and what aren't? How do you know if it truly was an accident or not? There is too much bullying, lying and frivilous suing going on in our world today and the schools just need to protect themselves and our children. Also, consider "choosing your battles". A citation in 3rd grade isn't a big deal and seems an appropriate punishment, not overly aggressive. If she had been suspended, then it might be worth fighting.

Gramdpa Pete, happy to hear your child has started showing affection. School must make her happy? My son, when he is in "the zone" will freak out if you get in his space.

ttalucci: I can see your point. Its a valid point. I know that restrictions are in place for a reason but it seems that they are all emcompassing. Where I live they have a "no tolerance" rule, this is great except when its not. Serious issues should be dealt with, minor ones...perhaps reviewed/considered. I know about bullies. My son has been bullied so much Ive gotten 2 kids transfered out of his school and had to call the police on some others. I do try to give them a chance and speak to them first. I gues there is no perfect answer. School rules..well the school rules.