We went through a 3 month research/assessment period before my son turned 3. It was a hectic time. I think it will be better once you get into a "routine" - even if your routine each day of the week is different. I was recommended (even though I didn't do it- I think it's a good idea) that once you have your routine established you have a picture schedule to review with your son each night and each morning, so he knows what to expect. My son understands that he goes to school on Monday and sees (name friends and teachers), then goes to speech (name therapist -take pictures of the therapist and the office). He was given pictures of his school teachers when he started the year and he really liked looking at them and naming them every night before bed. Now, in the morning, I just say, "It's Tuesday! Who do you see today?". He can name everything off and I think it gives him comfort that he knows what's coming up. He doesn't know he's different - I think he believes all kids have "appointments" - my son is almost 4 now. But, his behavior is so much better than 1 year ago.

Hi @A MyAutismTeam Member - Though we are in the assessment process with my 3.5yr old too ( I too have a 2 yr dd not on spectrum and older son), I wanted to comment on your son's behavior. We too have noticed when there is significant changes in his routine, it easily impacts his anxiety which shows in ways of not eating, lack of sleep, and irregular behaviors. Hopefully as the assessments conclude and routine settles back down, that he will gradually transition back to himself. Even though he cannot clearly tell you what's bothering him, they definitely know when their routine has been interrupted and they "communicate" in other ways which in this case comes out in their behavior.

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I like the picture idea, I know that they do something similar at school to show the kids how the day will go. Thanks to both of you for the ideas and support.