The Seattle Children's Autism Clinic had a good blog post about this last year. In short they suggested making new holiday traditions. Your daughter might not be enjoying how society suggests we celebrate so why not re-define what the holiday season means to you and find a different way to celebrate it so that you and your kids can enjoy it. Even with a NT 2 & 3 year old you would have had to change up your holiday traditions (fragile/breakable decorations would have to stay out of reach or may not even get unpacked for a couple of years, shopping trips would have to be short and sweet to account for the attention and patience of a 2 & 3 year old, etc). Your kids are young enough that they will only remember how you are celebrating right now. Now is the time to form your traditions, your unique family traditions. Maybe the tree lights bother your child so your family tradition is that your tree doesn't have lights. Maybe you have a chewer so your family tradition becomes that you use only edible decorations on your tree (popcorn garland, gingerbread ornaments, candy canes, etc). Maybe a tree is out all together so your family tradition is to decorate one outside or hang a felt tree cutout on the wall or, or, or. You define your traditions!

is it normal to feel kind of sad about the holidays coming like I don't even I don't feel like decorating or anything. I'm not sure if it's because of the idea that I have in my head about how my 2 year old almost 3 year old daughter would have enjoyed Christmas if not for autism. and that knowing she is not,maybe that is the reason for the feelings I don't know I'm confused please help