My son is not aggressive but once ever so often he gets really dis regulated which escalates when the staff at the therapeutic school out him in a hold.
My son will say thing like, "you will pay for this" or "I have powers to invent things that will get rid of you people". He was suspended and had an emergency psyc evaluation.
She thinks it's a power trip. He feels he has no control. My question is first is this common?
Second, how can I make the school… read more
Add in a "I'm going to get you fired" and "I'm going to destroy XXXXX" and it's my son. I'm not sure what you mean by "when the staff at the therapeutic school out him in a hold". Do you mean physically hold him? If this is the case this can totally be a trigger for escalating a meltdown. It is in my child's case. If your son is on the spectrum I'm not sure why this kind of behavior would warrant an emergency psych eval, especially at a therapeutic school. ASD kids who are highly verbal will use their words in a meltdown and this is what is sounds like. If the school doesn't get this maybe a change in school is needed or if that isn't possible maybe bringing in an advocate to explain it to them for you. It sounds like a functional behavior assessment needs to be done to pinpoint triggers.
Threatening language does not warrant restraint, aggressive behavior warrants restraint and then only in certain situations. If this were me I would call a meeting with the school to update his IEP. Ask them to do a functional behavior assessment (FBA) so that this can be used to update his behavior intervention plan (BIP) that I am assuming he has. If he does not have a BIP as part of his IEP you should push the school for this. This plan is where you decide as a group when and how to discipline. The padded rooms and what not are a bit old school but for some are necessary. If you don't need to restrain your son at home or lock him a padded room at home then there is no reason that should be happening at school.
Hi Jengee70,how is your son at home?Unless he displays angry behavior then I wouldn't worry.Other than that your son's behavior shouldn't warrant any sort of threat to anyone.He's probably just repeating something he heard from an action hero.
Frankly, if he's in a "therapeutic school" they should understand these outbursts without you having to explain them. I would be very concerned about their use of physical restraint on a child who isn't typically aggressive and I would seriously question their handling of this whole situation. Do you have any options to get him into a different school?
My son is not aggressive at home - he retreats to his room when angry. He has been in 3 schools so far and it's a struggle. It's like this is the way we do things so we are not changing for your son. Yes, he has an IEP but the restraints are in the behavioral intervention services. Maybe IL is way behind on autism because we toured school with padded room & one had lock down cell block room. This was the best school we could find.