I really think that my son is becoming more aggressive physically and verbally since starting therapy.
Many parents have issues with ABA because there way of dealing with the situation is not to avoid but to make the child adapt and cope with things they do not want to do. We as parents tend to avoid the meltdowns and tantrums by giving in to the child, but the problem is the child picks up on this and uses it. This situation is not good because the child never learns to act appropriately and when they get bigger and stronger they are harder to handle.
Many parents make the mistake of giving in but you are not helping your child in doing that, they need to learn to cope because in the real world you cannot always get your way. That being said a good ABA knows where to draw the line and only push the child so far.
What you will most often notice is that if you leave the area and stay out if view of the child and let the therapist work you will start to notice the child will respond but the minute you are back in the picture the child acts out. This is because they know you will give in and let them do what they want. The same thing happens at school sometimes, the child does what they have to do without issue but if you try the exact same thing they give you a hard time because again they know how to work you.
Extinction bursts are common in ABA. Sometimes a behavior may appear to be more frequent before it is extinguished. Talk to the therapist about it. Ditto to everything MyZett says. Very good in
Maybe your son is tired of so many activities. Remember this kids have no play time like regular kids do.My son went trough that stage. He would cry, refuse to get in the car. Imagine we had therapy Monday trough Saturday. He even ask me for play time. I had to rearrange his schedule plus he was tired for school . After that I saw improvement.
He has been in therapy for 4 months. Everything I had under control before I receive therapy has been completely reverse. Things I would have never ignored. The therapist says to ignore, because he is looking for a reaction. By me doing this he now thinks this is okay.