Check out the autism speaks site. Or just Google autism speaks advocate. I believe they have a toolkit that should prove to be helpful

If the public schools in your district don't have what your child needs, it's up to them to help find a school in another district that does. You also have a day in this. The home district also must supply transprotation.
Don't ever sign an improper IEP. Be that parent that will drive them nuts until they get it right.
Do you have an advocate?

Homeschool through an independent study charter school.

Thank you so much.

How can I find one?