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My son, Aidan, is very aggressive when he gets mad. Not only is he aggressive to people/animals but is destructive to things. (Walls, TV, etc). We have tried to encourage deep breathing, going to punching a pillow/bean bag/punching bag. He wants nothing to do with any of these things. We have tried the reward system for positive reinforcement. It works for about 2 weeks and then he is done! We have also given him consequences for making bad choices. Most often after given a consequence… read more
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Members offered a wide range of strategies for managing an aggressive 6-year-old, with the most consistent advice being to identify the... Read more
@A MyAutismTeam Member, our kids are smart and can be made aware of what they're doing. My advice, social stories, let him know about the potential danger or negative outcome as a result of this aggression. Try putting his name in the story too. Just google social story maker to create one. I used these for my son for his flapping, tantrums, anxiety, etcetera. Good luck, keep me posted.
try punching bag and gloves. you might try putting him something very physical like swimming a couple times a week to burn off energy and aggression
anger management helped my child through the school that helped massive stress balls body massage helps therapeutic music calms autistic people karaoke helps or a sport like boxing hobby like fishing
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Linda, I could not fit this part in to the previous post!
You mentioned that the reward charts didn't work. That means that the reward system in place did not function as a Positive Consequence for him. This is a common problem. It takes time and effort to find the positive consequences that a particular child values. What works for one often does not work for another. The solution to this part of the problem is to have a professional conduct a "Preference Assessment" to find out what he likes, what he values, and what will work as a positive consequence for him. The test is easy. If the items selected increase desired behaviors, then they are serving as positive consequences; if the items selected do not result in an increase of desired behaviors, they are failing as positive consequences and should be changed.
Long post! Thanks for your patience, and the best of luck with your cute little fellow!
Martha
First off, you need to determine the function (reason for) of the behavior. Does he get mad & aggressive when he becomes frustrated. This was the case with my son. A year ago, if he was playing with a toy & something wasn't just right or he couldn't find something, or if he was playing a game on his tablet & having trouble, he would lose it & become aggressive. The end result, several broken tablets, a broken laptop, wholes in doors, etc. We were finally able to get an ABA therapist & her expertise changed our lives. The first thing she noticed, is that our son wouldn't/didn't know to ask for help. What she taught me to do is this: I started really paying attention when he was playing/doing things & at the first sign of him becoming frustrated, I would say, "I need..." and let him finish the sentence ("help"). After a few times of me prompting him to ask for help, he started asking.
Do you have an ABA therapist? You need to determine the reason for the behaviors before you can improve them.
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