To me it sounds like a line was surely crossed! In my opinion it seemed more like the teacher gossiping than anything else. Unfortunately I have no real legal answer for you. But if this teacher felt your sons comment was a threat, she should have gone to the police, school psychologist or another authority figure rather than the daycare teacher.

However, I can understand the need for others to be aware of the situation. But if you and the principle felt there were seriously no threats involved, then it should have been handled between the two of you and not his school teacher and daycare. How was the daycare's reaction to this?

Who is Sam? A fellow student? Is there any bullying going on between the two kids? I would, just to be on the safe side, consider having a long as possible (I am sure you have already though) discussion with Thomas about the comment he made, why he made it and if there is something going on. I know that it can be hard to get them to open up about things at times but it is certainly important to ensure that there isn't anything more going on with your child. You could also involve the school psychologist if you feel that is helpful. And call for an IEP meeting (if he has one, assume he does) and get them involved, too. With this teacher claiming she's trying to have your son kicked out of school over this... it may be important to do this ASAP.

My son got into a lot of trouble himself one day (He's 6). 3rd grader was bullying him all Kindergarten and into 1st grade on the school bus. He never once made mention of this to me... even when I'd ask every day how his day went, what happened, etc. But one day after being tired of dealing with her, he told her, "Leave me alone you stupid B****!" and she cried and told on him. Hasn't bothered him since though. However, it wasn't until I asked WHY he would EVER say that to someone that he told me what had been going on for over a year!

I would contact the school board regarding privacy policies. As well as approach this teacher as nicely as possible about why she felt the need to run to an unaffiliated daycare provider and discuss an incident unrelated to the daycare with the daycare teacher. But kids are kids and boys are boys! And boys love all things guns. Do you even have a gun at home? It'd be hard for a 7 year old to come up with a gun if one isn't in the home! I'd put that out there, too, in his defense.

Don't get a lawyer, just file a complaint against the supervisory office. complaints should be online

Sounds like she was gossiping and a line was crossed. I would definitely research your child's privacy rights.

Get a lawyer.