see if you can get a picture of the therapist and make it part of her routine to see the photo and prep her for when she is going to see him. Maybe the more she "sees" his photo, she might calm a bit.

My son had a problem with his new location for speech and OT. He had to switch (because of insurance). For a little over a month he was upset every time I took him. Initially he'd cry in the waiting room, but eventually he'd start crying as soon as we hit the parking lot. I started to go into therapy with him for both OT and speech. The therapists wanted to see him alone initially, but it wasn't working out. I sat in on therapy for several weeks before he got comfortable enough to go in by himself.

If you go in with her that might ease the transition. It helped with my son (even though the therapists didn't want me in there initially).

I don't have experience on that topic but I would give it a shot if I were you because if she has a problem with men maybe having a male therapist will help her get over that anxiety. I would recommend that the therapist be warned ahead of time that she has anxiety towards men. Maybe he can help with that... And if it doesn't work out you can get a new therapist, right? Just go with your gut...

Good luck and if it's okay with you I'll be praying for you all during the transition!

Thank you all for tha much appreciated advice. I have decided to give it a try it's only twice a week so if it doesn't work out after a few weeks then I will go back to having all female therapists. I really hope it will go well I really want my daughter not to fear men. I am going to be sitting in with all her sessions so hopefully that will help her.