There aren't easy answers to your question. For your own sanity, I would suggest that you have the younger child evaluated by your state's early intervention program. If they also don't see any red flags or developmental delays, perhaps that information would put your concerns to rest.

This is the reason my husband and I decided not to have anymore kids. It hurts. Our daughter is 13 years old and recently diagnosed with ADHD, our son, 5 years old, was diagnosed with ASD at 2 years old. We fear there is a high chance the potential next one could have it and be severe, as we noticed the diagnosis were significantly worse with both kids. Alot of people tell me not to let that be the reason for not having more, but I am so scared to take that chance. I see the struggles my son goes through and he is high functioning. Then again, I have met people with more than one kid, but only 1 of the kids having ASD. So, I don't know....its frustrating, especially when u have baby fever.

HI dear, I don t have an answer for your question, but I wanted to say that I m in the same situation like you. My kids are almost the same age as yours. And I would like to have more kids, but I m waiting to see and to do an assessment to my 16 month baby girl who looks very typic until now. good luck

Thank you everyone for the support. I am very sad knowing the chance is higher if we do have another child. With my oldest at 5 & autistic is still a daily struggle. I don't think I can go through again. I only hope & pray for the best. Only god knows. Thank you mamas!