Bullying is such a constant in my area. How do you speak to schools without the issue being swept under the rug or getting everyone on the defensive? Is there a way to get a child into a more Autism structured environment?
We have a 6yo that began experiencing bullying in kindergarten a few weeks ago. Never assume that "everything is going so well" or "he's adjusting so well" or any generic, uninformed statement to passify you or make them sound like they've actually been monitoring your child's social interactions. The truth was far from what they were telling us. We had to call an emergency IEP to get their attention and let then know we meant business. Children are capable of being just as cruel as adults. Hite an advocate if you can afford one, drop hunts about consulting an attorney, and ask them directly about their bullying policy, how it is actually practiced, and what specifically they are going to do to remedy the situation, "immediately" with documented, measurable, and quantifiable evidence, and as well as when they will demonstrate this evidence. If necessary, request a paraproffesional aide to assist your child in navigating (protecting them in) social interactions. Children catch up in academic areas at various times and according to their changing interests, but psychological damage from bullying can be difficult to recover from and can establish lasting social patterns of interactions into future grades. There is nothing more important than a happy and confident child that feels accepted, supported, and challenged. Best of luck to you and your little one in your journey.
I have found how important it is build up a good relatioship with support staff and teachers. Never take no for an answer. I transferred my neice to a fee paying school age 12yrs and whilst it took a while especially,as they had no formal Senco. By the time she was finally diagnosed with ASD at 16yrs old, the school had employed a part time Senco. My neice was the first ever student who used a computer in all lessons and for her exams. She came out with high grades Moving onto college, she had great support if she needed it and has come top of class with highest grades possible. Now moving on to another college to study Journalism. Never give up.
Even though our school district has a no bullying program. I don't think enough was done for my son. The teachers didn't get involved in the classroom, and occasionally a teacher may mitigate in the halls, but it was not in his nature to get help. He would tell me these awful scenarios and I would have to go in and set a fire to the system to right the wrongs. Alot more intervention on my behalf than the school district.
oh my gosh most definitely the school Tereus was in Isolated him and wouldn;t allow him around other children and the school allowed my son to fake sleep for well over 2months and whenever I got after him for playing games at school he would get upset if he wasn't in the green for zones and his psychologist emailed me telling me not to discipline my child and I told her no he has to have boundaries because the world will not kottle him. She didn't like my answer the prinicple fights me on everything and I finally moved him out and into a different school and hes much way happier,
In all honesty they will experience bullying all their lives. I'm 64 and I have had to tackle bullies all my life. Its just because they're "normal" and I'm not. It gets old and eventually with time and principals, cause that's how we think, we find a way to handle these "normal people!