I have a 16 year old with Asperger's that was diagnosed a couple years ago by the school psychologist, and now recently evaluated by an independent psychologist. The second evaluation I am not certain I agree completely. My daughter is of exceptional intellect, having been previously given intelligence tests. The psychologist determined she has Level 2 Autism. I think it more likely that my daughter got tired of answering questions. That being said, my daughter has had… read more
I am also in California and she cannot do the testing until, I believe, 17.5. Just to clarify, we had mixed feelings about the residential treatment. I am concerned about her future and her ability to be independent and to commit to something. She says that she wants to go to college, and work with animals in her future career. This school has equine therapy, and partnerships with various entities that could get her foot in the door to training. There are many positives about the school. There are just two things that bother me: distance and our lack of time with her, and loss of communication for her with her (few) friends and family through the forms she is most comfortable (text/Skype). I cannot homeschool, even though I am a teacher. We tried one independent learning class (math) with her, and she could not keep up with the work they gave. There are two reasons homeschooling won't work (1) her lack of ability to commit herself to the time that is needed, and (2) I just do not have the time or energy that is required for the amount of work she would need to do. In addition, she is isolated and not learning how to interact with peers. She is way more comfortable with adults, and adults really like her. She has three friends - one who moved away, and they are no longer compatible really, two that she has been online friends with for YEARS and she has never actually met. What Marley asks for is to have a tutor or mentor/teacher that works with her to do the teaching, etc. I do not see how to make this work or what options would be. I know the IEP team would not agree to this. I am working on finding a no/low cost advocate that might be able to help me figure this out. Not to mention that the recent psychological evaluation is not in my hand yet, and I have left messages for the psychologist and have not heard back yet.
I'm not sure this will help but I had the exact same situation when I was your daughter's age. I am a 22 year old with ASD level 2. I am and was extremely intelligent but hated school due to the over stimulation and environment. I would try to sue the online schooling at home and if she doesn't like that which I didn't. Please allow her to get her GED I know people think of that as the easy way out but in cases such as ours I think it is necessary! I still was able to go to college it isnt Harvard or yale but I can sure work my way there. I am working on my PhD and a mother to an ASD level 2 child. She shouldn't be put somewhere just because she doesn't "fit" into the states standards.
Depending on where you live, a GED would be the better option. I tried to do this for my son for other reasons but I live in CA, so the age limit didn't work for him. Another option, homeschooling, I did this for 4 years and he did well. I definitely wouldn't allow someone to take my child away from me, unless i was a danger to them or myself.
My mother and I had this same problem I am not sure who she called but she called someone in our school board and they had a hearing in which I was excused out of classes and permitted to take the test at 16. Try calling around and see if thats an option. Right now I feel as if they are treating her more as a patient for the the problems she is having with school and other peers more than it being an educational issue. I was in and out of residential programs and facilities until I took my GED which the next fall I started college.
I was fine with her getting her HISET/GED. That is the route my other ASD daughter is taking (she only has math left, but has processing issues). But the school district forced my hand, and I had no advocate to help me. At the same time, she is isolating herself and has not qualified for any help from regional center or other agency. I feel that I am stuck.