I agree. Sometimes, you need to let things go... when its not appropriate or when you need to focus on MORE IMPORTANT stuff (like kiddo!)
And those other times when people need to be rimnded that NOT ALL CHILDREN are the same and although its an invisible disability it EXISTS!

Sticky Beaks, I love it!

You can do either thing - 1, take the high road knowing your child is going to get that 1 x person who insists it is 'their business' so sit smug taking the road of budha letting it flow over you like tye Zen fairy you aee Hopie or 2. Say 'no, my child has neurological delays' making that simple for you my chikd has brain damage and doesnt know better' I say this because it will make them feel bad they opened their sticky beaks up in the first place.
Have your two responses ready your Zen and your attack and chose on the day, thus way you will never feel at a loss for words! Im getting good at joining in almost like a game with my son to glancing adults!

There is a tremendous amount of satisfaction in not caring about what other people think or say. My concern is always for my child first and helping him understand social situations and safety issues. As far as I am concerned, people that think they know better are invisable. I don’t owe them an explanation for my child’s behavior. My priority is to communicate with my son and redirect him away from whatever he is fixating on and reminding him to practice feeling calm.

In the context of this situation, I would ignore the persnickety employee’s failed approach but quietly move my child away from the door. I try to bring a small tactile toy or even hand my iPhone over so he can focus on games or videos until we get done. Does it work all the time? Nope!

You have a lot on your plate already and people have no clue what a challenge it is just to get a simple task done. We will be dealing with this for many years to come and there are lots of pooh heads on this planet but there are some very understanding and kind people as well. I focus on the kindness and tune out the rest.

Last week I had a Uber driver suggest I could spank my kid. My son was having a meltdown. I politely told him spanking my son is not the answer. I said my son has Autism . The driver continued to apologize all the way to my door. People just don't think simply assume they have all the answers...