Nora starts Kindergarten next Thursday. I would love to take her on her first day but I know she is anxious and cries when I drop her off at school - regardless of first day, middle of the year, etc. I know that the experience of dropping off on the first day is mostly about the parents. I want to experience that with her but understand my presence may make an already stressful day more stressful.
What do you do? Maybe I can do it on the second day instead with… read more
I decided that I will pick her up from school on her first day. I can still 'participate'in her first day in a way that reduces her anxiety instead of increasing it. At times, she has separation anxiety and its heightened when she's already anxious. She seems ready for school though, she's handling it much better than she has in the last two years. We feel good about it too.
I hope Nora was a wonderful school year! The first day is always super busy so I take my boys because so many adults walking around can cause a meltdown for them. I don't go in the classroom with them because I don't want them to panic as I leave them in a room. I say my byes at the door and make it short ad possible. Also a visual schedule of Austin going to class has helped him a lot. I let him carry it and lead the way on the morning routine last year, it stopped meltdowns to see a visual of it ending with him sitting at his table.
My son told me, “Go to work.” He was fine. I was blubbering.
Is she non-verbal? At the risk of sounding crazy or causing more anxiety, if possible I'd send a audio or video recorder with her in some hidden way. Most times it's probably not for any disturbing reason they are doing this but I'd want to be as sure as possible since my child can't really tell me much. Though my child liked school and we noticed a difference and that's what really led us to wanting to know more.
I take my child everyday as I have to unless my husband is off of work. I know what you mean, if your child wants you and has to part ways that can be a difficult transition but if you're going to be taking her most of the other days I'd think it'd be best to let her work though that and get "practice" letting go at the school gate as soon as possible. Consistency and routine is helpful as much as you can enforce it.
The visual aides and stories are a great idea before and after. We don't always know how much our child is listening or understanding, especially when upset but I'd still try to reassure her as part of our "goodbye" that she might have "fun" and maybe mention "like in the book....." or "like [favorite character that goes to school]" to make that positive association. I hope it goes as smoothly as possible!