My daughter has been dignosed with aspesgers and autism. Shes about to be 6. And my 4 year old has some of the same symtoms but shes worse when it comes to melt downs. My 6 year old holds her ears and bawls, while my four year old cant coop unless she has touch. She will scream and throw fits and pull her hair. My 6 year old needs to be alone or she every now and then needs hugs and she has a hard time in social things. She rather be a lone most of the time or some times… read more
I am learning too, but from the sound of what you are describing your daughter may have sensory processing issues. My son has a lot of sensory issues which can effect his ability to tolerate social situations. Occupational Therapy has really helped him and helped me understand sensory issues and how to help him manage them. His sensory issues can also change. So he needs tight hugs one moment then doesn’t want to be touched the next
I hope some of this is helpful. I wish I knew more. You are definitely in the right place. There is amazing advice to be found here
A person either has Aspergers OR Autism. Aspergers is often referred to being “on the spectrum”. Autism has the strongest features on the spectrum and Aspergers is on the milder side. Sometimes it’s hard to determine where a child lies on this till they get older- but most Aspergers are verbal but maybe more detached... the descriptions go in and on because each child/person is special and unique with abilities and challenges.
When my son was your daughters age he had sensory issues with certain sounds like someone coughing, sneezing and sniffling. This would cause his meltdowns. I would try to remove him from those situations if I could but it’s not always that easy. I understand now days you can sometimes put earphones over their ears or play soft music over them. There are also some good reference material out there to help.
Look up SPD- sensory processing disorder
My daughter is detached and finds social situations v difficult.
She does that sideways head flick to avoid eyes.
I worry about the future for her. I'm just getting her a health plan in place through the local team and I think the secondary school over here she's probably going to go to a very small school for autistic children.