I am learning too, but from the sound of what you are describing your daughter may have sensory processing issues. My son has a lot of sensory issues which can effect his ability to tolerate social situations. Occupational Therapy has really helped him and helped me understand sensory issues and how to help him manage them. His sensory issues can also change. So he needs tight hugs one moment then doesn’t want to be touched the next

I hope some of this is helpful. I wish I knew more. You are definitely in the right place. There is amazing advice to be found here

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A person either has Aspergers OR Autism. Aspergers is often referred to being “on the spectrum”. Autism has the strongest features on the spectrum and Aspergers is on the milder side. Sometimes it’s hard to determine where a child lies on this till they get older- but most Aspergers are verbal but maybe more detached... the descriptions go in and on because each child/person is special and unique with abilities and challenges.

When my son was your daughters age he had sensory issues with certain sounds like someone coughing, sneezing and sniffling. This would cause his meltdowns. I would try to remove him from those situations if I could but it’s not always that easy. I understand now days you can sometimes put earphones over their ears or play soft music over them. There are also some good reference material out there to help.

Look up SPD- sensory processing disorder

I agree it sounds like sensory issues.. My five year old is the same way.