We are looking into doing a Due Process after paying a lawyer for nearly two years $6,000 only to have her just release us withoiut doing any work not even contact a district that denied our daughter in 12th grade FAPE. We have evidence of at least 10 IDEA violations and about the same amount in state education laws. Too late for a citizen complaint and the district has ignored us for these past two years. Doing some research and looking… read more
Yes. It's called being a 'Pro-Per', Representing One's Self.
Bring an 'Advocate' with you to Court.
They are typically a Free Service.
Take all of your complaints to an Advocate Agency and work out acceptable solutions and then offer the other party the opportunity to sit and discuss and work them out before going to court.
That will show the Judge that you are willing to do the best for your child.
If you are not happy with the results, ask to reconvene at a later date and rework the areas of disagreement, then sit back down and re-hash the issues.
If it takes 3 times, then do that, but if they are unwilling to work through the issues, then take them to court.
At least you will have on record that you tried to settle the issues with the school and the judge should look on that favorably.
And I would Book-Mark these pages and again, Download all of the 'pdf' files and print them out.
"stepping over professional boundaries" @A MyAutismTeam Member?
That sounds like you were on the right path to me.
Anyways, they are supposed to be the 'Professional(s)', but it sounds like they want you to do all the work and they get all of the credit.
It's your job as the Parent to be "stepping over professional boundaries", so I would do that as often as I could. Don't let them have the final say. This is Your Child, not their set of numbers.
Since the 'Advocates' in your area do not offer a free service, it's time to get a copy of the Laws/Rules/Guidelines for the School, the State IEP, and whatever else that even remotely applies in your Child's School District. They have to be On-Line in a PDF format and free.
Get them, and Download them so you have them at your ready. Print them and put them in a 3-Ring Binder.
You don't have to read everything, just find specific things that you want to discuss, Mark the pages and highlight the specific paragraphs.
And finally, make Foot-Notes/Cliff-Notes of where you can find them so you can do that quickly.
Once they see that you have a 3-Ring Binder, where Tabs are affixed to the pages, with your notes, they will start taking you seriously.
Oh...Also, find out what Laws apply to them if they do not comply. Have them at the ready, but don't use them as a 'Tool' to force them to do as you say, unless they become 'Hostile'. And what I mean by 'Hostile' is that their attitude starts becoming unhinged.
And Write everything down, or record them on your Device.
Make sure that you are always on equal ground during the discussion and don't be afraid to either raise yourself up to their level, or to take them down a notch.
That should open some eyes and make them take you more serious.
And if they think that you are 'Joking', Express that you would prefer to work as 'Professionals' and that you are here/there for your Child and not their Careers.
That's a lot, I know, but in the end, you will have gained their respect and at least secured a better learning environment for your Child.
Hope that it helps.
@A MyAutismTeam Member, Seems that the whole system there is working together against the parents and their Special Needs Children. Your Lawyer needs to be shamed. You hired them, they should be supporting your stance 100% or return the money.
Did you document the School Board's comments?
Keep taking those Notes.
They laugh because they are nervous.
Getting a Piece in the local Media pages sometimes brings unwanted scrutiny to the school and creates a more equal setting.
They don't seem to be taking your needs for your child seriously.
They do Have to 'Prove' it. It's the Law as written and agreed upon.
From what I understand here is that they want you to follow the laws that they are ignoring.
Making jokes in such a serious situation is a sign of contempt, and they must feel 'Protected'/'Safe' that their livelihoods are not in any jeopardy.
Contact a City Council member. Fine the one for your District and send them an IM or an eMail. They have ways (and language) to deal with such people.
@A MyAutismTeam Member, thank you for the support.. Read my recent post its sad. Also my former advocate from the local Arc here email me that someone aproach them on wanting to interview parents with special education issues. She said we should think about doing it. This happen before and the local new person couldn't air it because he didn't have enough parents in our district that wanted to come forward.