I seeked out to my pediatrician who in fact sent me over to other doctors and then once I got it on paper about behavioral problems then I was able to get help from the school.

I have an educational attorney and my daughter has an IEP. I also have an advocate who comes to all the IEP meetings with me. Also had recommendations for my daughter I writing by having a neurologist psychological evaluation. All these resources have helped

The need for a 1:1 aide MUST be listed in your loved ones IEP. In order to do this you need to find a lawyer or an professional advocate (who knows your school district) to attend IEP meeting with you until the school district knows you are serious and determined. Depending on where you live, even if you get the school district to agree to provide 1:1 aide that does not mean they will hire competent staff or that staff will not quit the job after a month. Get your IMPORTANT goals for your loved one clear in your mind before the IEP meeting. Then in addition to requesting a 1:1, make sure you have (1) goal that you want the speech, occupational, physical, behavioral therapist/interventionist to work on and train the aide on. Finally, give the classroom teacher 1 or 2 goals and your clear expectations for his/her results. Ask for progress reports weekly at the beginning. I am sorry this is so hard and expensive. Best wishes!!

You will need an advocate. Maybe thru the department of mental health in your area.