My son is 9 yr and i am having issue with the school ans he in 4th grade he is on a iep and all to help him but the school keep calling cps on me when he has a meltdown and self harms his self so i have to make a police report to cove my but and it getting old they have seen his meltdowns ans how he acts when he has them he hit yells cusses hit you threaths to kill you and hit his self in the face ans throws what ever he can at you but why does the school not understand when they have seen this… read more
The CPS thing is a way to push you out of mainstream schools and into special programs. It’s what many call the “paper trail“. Maybe there is nothing you can do but just understand that it’s a organized direction that is planned! I’m not lying! I’m saying this so you can not get upset about it anymore. So take any and all emotion out of your reactions to their calls and learn to respond with a flat tone. They’re trying to push you in a direction, only go that way when YOU want to.
When the school automatcally falls upon the default of blaming the parent because they can't handle behaviors at school, that is a sign of laziness and incompetence on their part. You need to call an emergency iep meeting, and you need to be putting them on the hot seat. Don't let them put you on the defensive. You are not the one doing something wrong.
Please always watch what personal information you share at that IEP table...PLEASE! These are people who have proven they are not your friends if they are calling the police or CPS. They are taking notes and reviewing them with each other after your gone. A simple statement like, “my husband and I differ in opinions on how we should handle this situation...” can be used against you legally as “spousal discord and arguing”. I’m not making this up, I’ve had it happen to me and heard other people call IEP’s “fishing expeditions”. Some people have good school districts and trust them....I DON’T!!! I’ve made that mistake with two kids, it’s a regret that never goes away. It’s sleeping with the enemy.
Yes I am looking at Private Day Schools right now. Call the Director of Special Ed and decide if it would be better for you and your child to go to another school. It was a hard decision for us and he made it all the way up to the fifth grade in public school but it’s too stressful for my son and myself now. You get one bad teacher and everything goes downhill! We were lucky to have a wonderful teacher for 3 years but she quit. The 2 replacement teachers were unexceptionable. I wish you luck, I really do.
Is it possible to place him in another school? First off, is this a public school and is he in a special ed class ? I don't know if you tried placing supports on his IEP but you can do this if you didn't know already.Does he get breaks when needed ? Is the class the right fit for him and teacher a good fit ? I have a lot of questions but I just thought I'd ask you them.
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