The CPS thing is a way to push you out of mainstream schools and into special programs. It’s what many call the “paper trail“. Maybe there is nothing you can do but just understand that it’s a organized direction that is planned! I’m not lying! I’m saying this so you can not get upset about it anymore. So take any and all emotion out of your reactions to their calls and learn to respond with a flat tone. They’re trying to push you in a direction, only go that way when YOU want to.

When the school automatcally falls upon the default of blaming the parent because they can't handle behaviors at school, that is a sign of laziness and incompetence on their part. You need to call an emergency iep meeting, and you need to be putting them on the hot seat. Don't let them put you on the defensive. You are not the one doing something wrong.

Please always watch what personal information you share at that IEP table...PLEASE! These are people who have proven they are not your friends if they are calling the police or CPS. They are taking notes and reviewing them with each other after your gone. A simple statement like, “my husband and I differ in opinions on how we should handle this situation...” can be used against you legally as “spousal discord and arguing”. I’m not making this up, I’ve had it happen to me and heard other people call IEP’s “fishing expeditions”. Some people have good school districts and trust them....I DON’T!!! I’ve made that mistake with two kids, it’s a regret that never goes away. It’s sleeping with the enemy.

Yes I am looking at Private Day Schools right now. Call the Director of Special Ed and decide if it would be better for you and your child to go to another school. It was a hard decision for us and he made it all the way up to the fifth grade in public school but it’s too stressful for my son and myself now. You get one bad teacher and everything goes downhill! We were lucky to have a wonderful teacher for 3 years but she quit. The 2 replacement teachers were unexceptionable. I wish you luck, I really do.

My daughter was put on Home Hospital Instruction by her neurologist last year. She told me my daughter has reached the age where it is obvious she does not fit in or have socialization skills to help her. She was in 3rd grade and it was only getting worse. She told me I had to het her out of that public school (we tried 5 various schools over the years, private and public) or she would continue to spiral out of control and eventually give up trying to socialize and make friends. There is only so much rejection a person can take before they throw in the towel. She gets really depressed wishing she weren't alive at times. The neurologist suggested a particular school that is designed for children with learning differences. It was the best move we ever made. Her life has changed dramatically. She went from being a complete loner with no friends last year, to lots of friends at this new school. She actually plays tag at recess! She actually gets invited to play dates and birthday parties! Her self confidence and overall happiness has gone way up! There is no struggle to get her to go to school anymore. I am super happy for her. The autism will always be there. However, I will do whatever I can to see her thrive.