My 5 year old has been struggling to go poop in the potty. She wears panties and goes pee, but when it comes to poop she puts her pull ups on and goes that way. Ive tried what feels like everything - took away the pull ups and she’ll just hold it and will be constipated. Ive tried putting the poop in potty after, rewards, sticker chart, social stories. The rewards and social stories helped her for going potty, but for poop she just wont do it. She has accidentally gone poop in the potty before… read more
I took a 4 day weekend snd I took my son to the potty every hour and said no more diapers only underwear. When he finally had to go I sat on a stool in the bathroom snd just kept saying ‘it’s okay…you can do this…it’s just going to come out…’ over and over / when he finally did go it was Yeah and never put a diaper on him again except pull ups at night. It was my ‘tone’ and ‘no big deal’ kind of attitude that worked. I literally said ‘just let it come out it’s no big deal ‘ over and over. He was 6 and best day when I got him past that !!!!
Don’t give rewards for pee anymore, or only give stickers for pee. just give rewards for poo and make a super huge deal. Like 2nd time she goes in potty, give her like a big stuffed animal or something like that. And if she goes five times in the toilet, tell her she gets something big that she really wants. I don’t know what that is but for us it was trip to Disneyland. And also, we bought him two toys he wanted really really badly so it was beyond highly motivating for him. Like he wanted to sit on the toilet all the time.
She might be confused on what is happening. Like maybe she thinks she’s losing a body part in the toilet when she poops and doesn’t know where it goes. My kid thought something like that. I had to look up and explain the whole sewer system to him and that poop is waste and not a part of his body. The more detail they have the better.
Let her squat on the toilet seat instead of sit. That is a more natural position for a bm.
I allow Toys and Entertainment devices in the bathroom, especially anything that sparks laughter @A MyAutismTeam Member.
That stimulates the muscles and before they even know it, that had a B.M..
Then you verbally reward them, make them flush and close the lid and exit on a good note.
To reinforce it, give them a Bath/Shower (whichever they prefer) after they evacuate themselves.
It kind of seals the deal.