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What Is A Better Way To Respond To People Who Think They Are Specialists In ASD When Neither They Or Their Kids Have ASD?
A MyAutismTeam Member asked a question 💭

I’m asking because I have a long time friend, love her to death, but we were on the phone for a very long time when Aziel and his ASD became the next topic to talk about. She kept asking me, “what coping strategies do we have in place for when he can’t ‘stim’?” She kept on with using scenarios that do not apply to my kid. I was getting irritated but my deep breaths and trying to understand kept me from getting mad. However, she began stating that there will be a time where he won’t be able to… read more

posted November 4, 2023
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A MyAutismTeam Member

Glad I could help🙂. I guess my being on old or older mom has some perks😉 .Since my 17 yr. old usually doesn’t want my advice, at least I can feel useful for my fellow ASD parents benefit☺️😆. I kid you not, my 17 yr. old is often harder to raise then my sweet, nonverbal 11 yr. old.

posted November 4, 2023
A MyAutismTeam Member

Just remember that probably friends and family mean well. If it's someone important to you maybe they can spend some significant time around you to understand your experience. It is frustrating though.

posted November 4, 2023
A MyAutismTeam Member

I find the well-meaning incorrect advice and the judging of my parenting and the lack of understanding frustrating in my social circle as well. I just remind myself that they can't relate, because they aren't in my shoes. And I keep doing what my intuition as their Mom tells me is right and the strategies TRUSTED professionals recommend (after independent research). With my bff, I thank her for caring and I acknowledge that she does care and that means a lot, but then I change the subject. I tell her this conversation is stressing me out. I say something about a recipe or a sale or some other topic we have common interests in.

posted January 12
A MyAutismTeam Member

I have had a few people offer their advice on ASD and I usually tell them how our daughter handles a situation.

The dumbest comments are the most memorable. I had a coworker tell me my daughter will have special abilities. A lot people see that in movies or TV shows with autistic people. My daughter doesn't have any superpowers.

posted November 4, 2023
A MyAutismTeam Member

@A MyAutismTeam Member 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 That so funny!

I agree with the life experiences. We have been hit pretty hard with some that did the same exact thing to us. We have all come along way and it’s a wonderful thing to be able to recognize that in another.

Secret is safe with me… 🤐🤐 🤣🤣

I know what it’s like to be accused of being the “know it all,” and it really sucks. It’s a huge downer. We just want to help people. Even the ones who can’t think outside their own lane.

posted November 4, 2023

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