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Encourage discussion about staying calm, maintaining routines, recognizing patterns and supporting children without punishment.

October 21
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Handling toilet training accidents calmly is so important, and the good news is that staying composed actually helps your child stay calm too. Children with autism are very sensitive to the emotional energy around them, so when a caregiver stays relaxed, it helps the child feel safer and less distressed.

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Handling toilet training accidents calmly is so important, and the good news is that staying composed actually helps your child stay calm too. Children with autism are very sensitive to the emotional energy around them, so when a caregiver stays relaxed, it helps the child feel safer and less distressed.

Here are some helpful strategies:

- Stay calm and regulated yourself first β€” take a slow breath before reacting, as your child will mirror your emotional state
- Avoid punishment or negative reactions β€” this can create anxiety around toileting and make progress harder
- Use positive reinforcement β€” reward every small step forward, no matter how tiny it seems
- Keep language simple and neutral β€” when cleaning up, use a calm, matter-of-fact tone
- Use social stories β€” visual step-by-step guides can help your child understand what to expect and what to do
- Work with a professional β€” an occupational therapist or behavioral analyst can create a personalized plan

Progress can feel slow, but many MyAutismTeam members remind others that it truly does get better with patience and consistency. Celebrating even the smallest wins β€” like one parent who celebrated with donuts β€” can make a big difference for both you and your child! 🍩

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